This post is a sensitive topic for me. It deals with weight loss, weight maintenance and life. As I traveled through a decade of obesity and then morbid obesity, I faced many challenging situations in my life. Life happened regardless of where I was on my weight loss journey. During those 10 years of obesity I tried over and over again to lose weight, but never kept focused. Rather I continually let the stresses of life and the tendency to be an emotional eater distract me from completing my journey.
I’ve had a lot of people in my life who I have helped get on the path to healthy living. As they worked through their issues with food, there were times along their journey that horrible things happened. Deaths in the family, miscarriages, job losses, financial problems, relationships dissolving. These life’s challenges more often than not caused them to falter and stop their attempt to lose weight. Sometimes they got back on track and managed to get where they wanted to be, but sometimes they ended up gaining all their weight back. It always saddened me.
When I see people both in the real world and in blog land struggle with life’s challenging situations I try and encourage them to look at these circumstances as practice for maintenance. Because your life won’t magically improve once you get where you are working so hard to go. Life will still happen and the practice that you get during weight loss in dealing with life’s challenges will serve you well once you lose all your weight.
Often times I have people tell me that they maintained a weight loss until something stressful happened. It’s understandable isn’t it? So often our hold on our new weight is tenuous until we’ve had some trials by fire. I had some trials that happened to me during the weight loss year and during the first several years after I reached my goal weight.
♥ One really big stress I had was experiencing a reunion with my birth family. As an adoptee I was always curious about my family or origin and thus was thrilled when my birth mother found me. That happened mid-way through my weight loss year.
♦ I had two miscarriages in the second year of maintenance.
♥ We moved state to state three different times for new jobs. This involved months of separation from John waiting for our house to sell.
♦ Financial obligations and stresses reared their ugly head several different times throughout the years.
♥ And finally, I had four babies after I lost the weight.
I don’t share all of those things to make you say, “Oh, Diane – you’ve been through a lot.” But rather to have you see that it is possible to keep on your path in spite of losses and trials. Not easy. But possible.
What challenges do your foresee that will be placed in your life over the next year? How will you continue on your path to good health while dealing with life’s challenges? Can you succeed? Diane