I was reading the Tuesday, October 11, 2011 issue of the USA Today and came across an article about large-size actresses in Hollywood becoming more commonplace, and more highly decorated. Case in point, Melissa McCarthy of Mike & Molly who won an Emmy recently. she is beautiful and overweight. Whereas in the past years, the vast majority of successful actresses were size 0 or maybe a 2, these days, you see many more larger-sized actresses.
One actress, Garourey Sidibe, said “One day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I loved myself no matter what my body looked like and what other people thought about my body.”
She is very beautiful and also overweight. (You notice I didn’t say “beautiful, but overweight” as many people referred to me and other overweight people.)
I found her quote very interesting, because that’s one place where I never could get to in my mind.
Not to say that I did not try. Over and over I tried to convince myself that I was okay and happy with where I was in terms of my weight. I went through periods of time where I bought a few nice pieces of clothing and wore makeup more regularly to try and embrace my new, overweight body.
Then there were other times where I just gave up and wore old jumpers with ugly shirts underneath. I stopped wearing contacts and just put my old glasses on everyday. Even within those “giving up” times, there must have been a part of me that believed I could lose the excess weight.
Where is the line between accepting who you are, and trying to get to a healthy weight? Granted actresses have a special challenge because millions of people access them every single second of the day.
However, everywhere I went as an overweight person, people were judging me too. They just didn’t write about me or take my picture and put it on the Internet. (Thank goodness.)
There are health risks to obesity. We may not all like to hear that, but most medical professionals agree that type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, increased risk of cardiovascular diseases and high cholesterol are often more common in the overweight. Not always, but enough to be statistically significant.
I feel like I can be frank, because frankly – I’ve been there.
It’s not easy being overweight whether you are a famous actress or a regular homeschooling homemaker like I was at the time. It’s not easy losing weight either.
How about beautiful Ms. Sidibe’s comment. I like that she said that she said that she wanted to “love herself” no matter what she looked like on the outside. That is really, really important.
I feel like I never really got there when I was obese. I never would have said that I “loved myself” in spite of my weight, but I wish I had. It’s one of those regrets that I face – even now after 13 years of maintenance.
Where are you on this issue? Can you love yourself and stay at a weight that may be detrimental to your health? Can you love yourself and not lose enough weight to be in a healthy range? Is there one answer for everyone? Diane