Change is something I often resisted in my life. When we contemplated moving from Florida to Virginia several years ago I was pretty resistant. (Although I was glad to move back to Florida after fighting DC traffic for two years.)
I think that my tendency to be resistant to change made it a bit more difficult for me to embrace a total lifestyle change when it came to exercise and healthy eating. Every time I tried a new program or just decided to “go it alone” when I was morbidly obese, I did not want to think that the healthy eating choices I was trying to make were going to be my new normal. Instead I really wanted to believe that I could lose some weight and then go back to my old normal.
The truth was that my old normal was not a healthy way to live. However, a new normal meant that I had to make major changes and that was scary and difficult.
My fear of change almost kept me from discovering that a new normal was going to be a better normal. Sure it was different to look at food from the perspective of weight maintenance and health, but the differences in my life at a new normal were almost all positive.
The new normal for me included changes like eating a real breakfast instead of cookies, exercising every day, breaking bad food habits such as grazing uncontrollably after dinner, learning how to cook healthy meals, and putting the brakes on all day snacking.
Another aspect of my new normal involved getting rid of all the plus size clothes in my closet, having more energy than I had since I was in college, feeling strong and positive, and sharing my new normal with other people.
Part of your weight loss journey really does involve learning to embrace your new normal and not fear the change. Additionally, facing the fact that if you go back to your old normal you will also go back to your unhealthy weight is a reality that we all have to confront. Even though your old normal was comfortable, it was not the healthiest lifestyle for you or for your family. That realization can be a hard one to embrace and accept, but accepting it helps you move forward into your new normal.
Because I had over 100 pounds to lose, I had a long time to learn to embrace the new normal. By the time I got to a healthy weight I had gone a long way toward being excited about my new lifestyle and being able to put aside the old habits that had caused me to becoming morbidly obese in the first place. I’m glad that I was finally able to embrace a new, healthy normal.
Do you ever think about a new normal? What impact does that have on your decisions? Diane