I hope that you all had a wonderful, wonderful Christmas! We had a great time and I thought I’d share a few pictures with you. Here I am waiting for John to come and get his picture taken with me because that is a family tradition. One of the kids takes our picture and then I take a picture of all the kids in front of their presents. This year, even though we all kept calling for John he took “forever” to get into the living room, so I pretended to have my picture with him. You will notice in the next picture that he did show up! (You may also notice my favorite green Crocs, which someone decided were awful and gave me a new pair of black ones.)
And here is the traditional picture of the kids in front of the tree. I don’t think the littlest one was quite awake in this picture, but they all perked up when the unwrapping began.
I hope that no matter what food decisions you made yesterday, you were able to focus on the meaning of the holiday and hopefully be able to enjoy spending time with your family and friends.
I’ve come to realize over the years that the defining of holiday success has little to do with food and much to do with living. When you are in weight loss mode or even in weight maintenance mode, it can be tempting to define your holiday by how well you controlled your food intake, or whether or not you stayed on your dieting plan.
I used to feel that way to some degree. The holiday would be over and in the midst of the remembering the good times of the day, I’d often find myself focusing on the food I either ate or didn’t eat. That often defined whether I felt the holiday was successful.
During my obese and overweight days, Ialways felt guilty over eating handfuls of chocolate and piles of cookies. As I lost the weight, I still felt occasional twinges of guilt over a “too big” slice of cake or the fact that I had three pieces of candy instead of the two that I had planned.
As the years have gone by, and I’ve grown older, I now understand that holidays have little to do with food and everything to do with relationships. When this morning dawned, I didn’t think about stocking candy, but rather about the look on the little boy’s faces as they opened a Lego set, or the fact that my two adult daughters are rapidly moving towards complete independence and how glad I am to have them home right now. I have learned to cherish the now and focus on the time spent together rather than allowing food to define my holiday.
If you had a less than stellar day when it came to food yesterday, I encourage you to put those thoughts behind you and remember the good times that you did have. The food is temporary but those relationships last and last.
That being said, I always encourage you to take control over your food choices and not allow food to control you or your emotions. I know that can be hard – believe me I know that can be hard – but it is a battle worth fighting and winning.
I am so looking forward to reading your blogs about what has been going on with you this last week and look forward to email updates from those of you who regularly email me!
So then – was your holiday successful? Diane