The Perfect Time May Not Be Now

Timing is everything in life – or at least that’s how one saying goes.

However, there are a lot of situations where there is no perfect time to get started. I hear a lot of young married couples that we know say they are waiting for the “perfect time” to buy a house, have a baby, or make a career move. In such situations there may be times more desirable than others, but there is rarely the perfect time.

My husband and I joke about how he likes to “wait for the planets to align” before he starts a home project. Sometimes the planets align “correctly” and sometimes he just gets going on the project even when everything else isn’t perfect.

Weight loss is much the same way isn’t it? Here we are at the beginning of a brand new year and it may seem as though this is the perfect time to get started on your journey, the truth is, it may not be the perfect time.

And you know what? Who cares if it isn’t the perfect time? It’s better to just start then wait for the “planets to align” or the “perfect” date on the calendar. Like I shared in my video from the other day, I stopped watching and started doing.

I stopped watching the scale creep up. I stopped watching my kids run around while I sat down. I stopped feeling like I couldn’t control my eating and started taking those steps necessary to set myself up for success. I stopped watching my life revolve around what foods I would eat that day and started making concrete decisions on what I would and would not eat.

If we wait for perfect we may find that perfect never comes. In fact, waiting for perfect can become an excuse for inaction. And as we all know, inaction often leads to unintended or unwanted weight gain.

The best thing about not waiting for perfect is this: It frees us up to just get going on our own journey. It frees us from trying to get everything just right before we move forward, and in some ways, it releases us from trying to be perfect ourselves.

I wanted to encourage you to not wait for the magic moment or the perfect circumstances but to just start making those decisions that will move you forward in your life.

If you’ve been on a healthy path for awhile, was there a perfect time or did you just get started even if things weren’t perfect in your life? Diane

 

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Comments

  1. This is exactly what I was thinking on my way home from the gym today. You never know what is going to happen or how things will turn out … so you should take action now. I’m a big planner so I’ve had difficulty in the past doing things when they didn’t fit into my schedule. Letting go of that obsession has been the best thing I ever did. Somehow or the other, things work out – plan or no plan :)

  2. Excellent analogy, and one I think your readers can relate to, myself included. I was married for seven years before my wife and I chose to have a child — always waiting for the “right” time. Well, we realized there would never be a right time, and decided to just go for it. That’s when life got good — and more fulfilling.

    Regarding New Year’s Resolutions, I always like to say: Resolve to resolve daily, not annually.

  3. Personally I just couldn’t take it any more and started on a monday. I believe it was a week after a vacation and I just couldn’t take it anymore. Waiting for a perfect time to start is an excuse I used in the past and it just prolonged my unhealthy ways. Even if you do find a perfect time to start I guarantee 3, 4, or 5 weeks into your diet things are not going to be perfect. Sooner or later we will have to deal with our health in the framework of our unpredictable lifes.

  4. Good point, Diane!

    When I look at my life and decisions I’ve made, for the most part, once I thought about doing something, I did it. It really was easier that way. The longer I put off doing something the harder it was to do. That’s just me, though.

  5. I love this post Diane. There never has been a perfect time for me. I think if people just do & not wait & don’t think it thru so much, the better it is… I doubt there ever is any perfect time in life.. there is always something & often people will make the something to avoid it…

  6. Sometimes it’s best just to jump in. If you think about it too much, you lose your enthusiasm for it. I’ve jumped in many times – maybe before I was even close to ready – but the good news is that I’m still at it until it works.

  7. I agree totally. I used to wait till Monday or the first day of the month. Frankly, that just gave me more time to do a lot more damage. I decided I would start Weight Watchers on August 1st. It was important for some unknown reason and it was a great choice as the best Weight Watcher leader ever (now retired) worked on Thursday nights. She was the perfect leader for me and I’ll never forget her. :)

  8. After reading this post I thought that you could title the post the opposite of what it says – something like ‘The Perfect Time is ALWAYS Now’ and it would be just as fitting!
    I never wait anymore for some magical day to get back on track.

  9. You are so right; there is no such thing as perfect or a perfect time. And it is just an excuse, a way to avoid. Thanks for pointing that out! :)

  10. I don’t think there is a “perfect” time to start things, but there are ways one can stack the deck in one’s favor.

    The thing is, don’t just passively wait for the perfect time to arrive. Create it. Actively.

  11. I looked up a phrase – positive life force – and there was a picture of you.

  12. Ha! Yeah, it used to be all about waiting for the perfect time (for all sorts of things). Now, I’m all about taking imperfect action!

  13. I think waiting for a perfect time for anything is just an excuse most of the time. There will always be a reason why you can’t/won’t/shouldn’t. Besides I think sometimes waiting for the perfect time to start is just setting myself up for failure … because if it really was the perfect time, then I shouldn’t fail, so if I fail, it obviously wasn’t the perfect time!

  14. For me, there wasn’t a “perfect” time to start my weight loss plan. I just at that moment in life had
    reached my limit with the disappoint of not being in shape or having the energy to keep up with my kids. However, it was a holiday when I decided to change my life: July 04, 2010. Just do it: anytime!

  15. Perfectionism, procrastination, and paralysis -– is a psychological vicious circle for many people. If that strikes a surprised cord with anyone, you can google those three words together, there is a wide variety of information available on the subject. And I like to include that anxiety is ALWAYS based on fear and that is an issue for many of us also.

  16. Waiting for the perfect time, never comes and that’s exactly what you say here. The perfect time is NOW. Not tomorrow, not in 1 hour but now.

  17. My perfect time is when I felt like a switch flip. In my mind something changed and I would dive right into what I needed to do. Looking back, it was probably when I connected to myself subconsciously and the the action body matched up. Boom. I was off and running. It’s happened several times since I was young. Other times it was fake it until you make it. Also valuable.

    If you dive in and don’t give up, eventually you’ll be in an ” up swing” of motivation.

  18. Love, Love, LOVE this, Diane. I couldn’t agree more! L

  19. There is a saying that “the perfect is the enemy of the good” and it is SO true. Too much waiting for perfect has ruined many good and beneficial choices by too many people, there is NO perfect time and there doesn’t need to be – you can lose weight just fine by trying hard enough and having it be good enough, even if it isn’t perfection.

  20. Unfortunately, the perfect time never comes around. It’s amazing the number of folks waiting for the ‘perfect time’ to start exercising.

  21. I just bought your book for my kindle and can’t wait to read it!

  22. Hey Diane, great reminder that there’s no such thing as ‘perfect time’ to do anything. It’s good timing on your part too because now with the new year peeople will be jumping into diets only to find out that things are not as easy as they thought and then be tempted to wait for better moment. As the saying goes “we don’t find time, we make it”

  23. My “perfect time” happened to be when I returned to work from maternity leave. I had decided that shortly after my baby was born. What it ended up being was an excuse to do whatever I wanted during my time off. I would find myself thinking “why am I doing this to myself? Anything I put on now I will just have to take off later”. I really should have just started when I knew I wanted to try.

    But then, I’m not doing all that great at the moment of keeping my goals in mind right now either. I need to keep reminding myself that any sweets I eat now are a delay in getting to my goal.

  24. Good for you Norma congratulations. I’m just making the decision right now to actually lose weight and take on a healthy lifestyle.