In the midst of all the good things that happened when I lost 158 pounds, there were some unforeseen and very unfortunate consequences, or “fallout” from my experience.
One of the most surprising and upsetting things that happened was when my supposed best friend could not handle my weight loss and turned mean and nasty. (Although I have to say now looking back 15 years, there was some meanness and nastiness going on before the weight loss as well.)
Another unexpected fallout from my weight loss was that I sometimes felt isolated when I was at a party or other social situation and the only foods there were foods I did not eat. I got a lot of pressure from well-meaning friends who told me that “just one piece won’t hurt.” While they may have been right, one piece would have hurt me emotionally.
On another emotional level, I had to work hard at learning what life looked like as the thinner Diane. I had surrounded myself with a cocoon of fat for a decade, and shedding that cocoon took a lot of emotional work. Some was freeing, but some was painful.
Even my very patient, loving husband was confused when I told him that I was going to exercise at least six days a week and probably seven. He told me later that he had to adjust to the new, “committed” Diane. He said that although he knew it was good that I was exercising, he also wondered if I was taking things too far.
Physically there was some fallout as well, because losing more than half of your starting weight leaves some undesirable side effects in terms of loose skin and muscle tone. And no, I will not post pictures, just in case you were thinking of asking.
So, I experienced three different types of fallout from my weight loss efforts.
I don’t share this to make you depressed, but so that you will be aware of the possibility of fallout as you work through your weight loss experience and complete your journey.
Fortunately, the joy I felt at losing weight did overshadow some of the negatives that came along with my weight loss. And I honestly believe that those negative experiences made me stronger in the long run because I had to learn to handle the negative emotions alongside the positive ones, which is real life.
Do you ever think about the fallout from weight loss? Ever had an unexpected negative comment or situation? Diane